Forestdeep - Clinical Hypnotherapy and Natural Healing. Wendy Cherry D.Hyp TFT(alg) LAPHP MICHT

A shy person's symptoms may range from being unable to speak to an attractive member of the opposite gender to a full-blown phobia that completely isolates the sufferer psychologically or even physically (as in the case of an agoraphobic).

Everyday shyness contains three elements:

physiological signs such as blushing
negative thoughts such as "everyone is looking at me"
bad feelings such as shame, anxiety and loneliness.

These interwoven elements often result in avoidance behaviour (such as keeping out of restaurants or not speaking to attractive girls or boys). This behaviour frequently causes non-shy people to label the shy person as "stuck up" or "aloof" thus completing the self-defeating circle and reinforcing the shyness.

There are a wide range of possibilities as to why a person may be shy, this could be because of traumatic experiences, family background, culture, even genetics. Extreme shyness may be diagnosed as "avoidant personality disorder" which often has no obvious origin.

Lack of experience in social situations, isolation as a child in a home or community can contribute to shyness. Low self-esteem arising from the poor parenting skills of your care-givers can leave you vulnerable to shyness as an adult.

There are two main ways hypnosis is used to overcome shyness: suggestive and analytical.

Positive Suggestion Hypnosis to Conquer Shyness

As the title suggests, this involves you, while in hypnosis, imagining yourself calm, confident and at ease in situations that previously had you feeling shy.

Coupled with powerful post-hypnotic suggestions this approach can result in a swift disappearance of the discomfort of shyness.

The second way of using hypnosis is to get to the root cause(s) of your shyness. And then, of course, dealing with them.

While the fact of you having no siblings, or coming from another culture or being ignored as a child for instance, cannot be changed, your perceptions and therefore your thoughts, behaviour and feelings can.